5 Ways To Get Back At Your Ex

A relationship is a very fragile bond that needs to be nurtured for it to remain healthy and flourish. Unfortunately, break ups do happen, and they are very stressful and emotionally draining, not to mention, frustrating.

When you are involved in a break up you may be of the mindset that you want to get back at your ex, but is this really the best step to take? One of the most powerful ways that you can use to get back at your ex may also serve to repair the relationship. It does this by showing your ex how important you are to them.

The following 5 tips are proven psychological methods the work very well. Not only will they serve to get back at your ex, but also for getting your ex back.

1 - Be calm and strong. You may have heard the saying, No one needs the needy. This saying certainly applies when it comes to a broken relationship. You need to stop all desperate behavior, such as, begging or pleading with your ex lover, or trying to cling pathetically to them as if you are a squirrel clinging to a tree branch. Does this seem familiar to you?

Tell your ex that you agree with the break up and that it's cool with you. Give the appearance that you are willing and able to move on without them. This will make you look stronger to them instead of weak and desperate. Suddenly you will appear to be more attractive to your ex. People are more attracted to things that they find harder to get.

2 - Reduce communications. By greatly minimizing the communications with your ex you will be taking an important step. You will be getting back at your ex, but yet doing it in a fashion that will allow for a more positive outcome. By not communicating you will be taking a break and and this may bother your ex and they may stew over it a bit. Eventually your ex will clear their mind and come to realize how valuable the relationship was.

3 - Be flexible. You do not want to be forceful with your ex by insisting that they move out, or pick up their belongings within a certain date. Be flexible and become a listener, as well as, a sympathizer. This will surprise your ex and show them a different side of you. This could inspire them to want to build the lines of communication which was lacking when the break up occurred.

4 - Get out more! You do not need to be alone at this time. Call your friends and get out of the house more often. This may not mean that you will be looking for attention from the opposite sex, but you need to get out and enjoy life with your friends. This will be therapeutic for you and also make your ex appreciate you more, because once again, you no longer look pathetic and needy.

5 - Be yourself. There was a good reason that your ex was originally attracted to you and a relationship developed. Never try to be like someone else, but just be yourself. This will, along with all of the other steps mentioned here, allow your ex to remember why they loved you in the first place.